Who Are The People You Meet? - Jamie Farrell

Who Are The People You Meet?

I'm sticking my neck out, looking for a friend

I’m sticking my neck out, looking for a friend

Raise your hand if you’re kinda shy.

Me too. It makes parties hard, especially parties in new places with new people, and especially if I’ve spent too many days alternating between talking only to my family and the imaginary people in my head. Oh, and the cats. I totally talk to the cats too. So when parties roll around, there’s effort involved in putting on that smile (and a clean shirt) and convincing myself that I will not be the only person at the party who feels weird, and that it’s an opportunity to make a new friend rather than an opportunity to embarrass myself and my husband.

You know exactly what I’m talking about, don’t you?

(Okay, please just pretend you know what I’m talking about. Thanks.)

So that’s what makes Twitter interesting. It’s like this non-stop party, and when you join, you show up mid-conversation, and you’re not sure if you should jump in and “interrupt,” or if the people hanging out at the Twitter punch bowl will be all, “Oh, yeah, join in our conversation! Love your earrings, by the way!”

Is there a hierarchy? Am I allowed to tweet people with thousands of followers, or should I stick to my social level and tweet people with fifty followers? How do I know who will tweet back? Should I be offended if nobody notices me, or do I not have enough Twitter cred yet? Or am I just as weird online as I am in person, and nobody wants to talk to the crazy chick wearing her shirt inside out? What’s this RT and MT and #hashtag stuff? If I tweet my secret celebrity boyfriends, will they suddenly notice me and fall madly in love with my brilliant wit and my artistic profile picture and beg me to leave my husband for them, or will I be one of the crowd of women sitting around our laptops in the dark, eating chocolate chip cookies and tossing our bras at the computer screen?

Erm, seriously, I have a point.

And the point is, in my short time on Twitter, I’ve learned The Secret.

And it’s a good one.

In fact, it could change the whole face of the internet.

Want to know what it is?

Come closer.


(I’m whispering now.)

Okay. Here it is:

Be the one who says, “I love your earrings!”

The fastest way to make a friend is to be a friend. Be the happiness, and the happiness will follow you back.

A few months back, in my semi-newbie Twitter days, I made a friend. I don’t remember exactly how we “met,” but I think she might’ve complimented my website-in-training. (Seriously, people. “Your earrings are fabulous.” That’s all it takes for a friendship to bloom.) Last weekend, she live-tweeted while reading Southern Fried Blues. (Have I mentioned how much I love all of you people sending me messages and leaving reviews and live-tweeting my book? I LOVE YOU GUYS!)

And today, she has her first book out, and it’s been getting stellar pre-release reviews! So let’s spread the happiness a little further. Go Β to Katy’s website and check out her book, By Proxy. It has such an awesome concept, and I cannot wait to read it for myself! Bonus: romance novel Β = happily ever after. It’s all about the happiness.

Extra bonus? There’s this fabulous lady I connected with through my friend Kelsey Browning who also has a book out today! And she totally knows The Secret, but it’s not a secret with Nancy. It’s just who she is, and it shines through in every bit of her personality. Happy book birthday to Nancy Naigle, too! Pecan Pie and Deadly Lies has a country music star hero. *swoon*

And after I go snag my copies of Katy’s and Nancy’s book, I’m going to go compliment somebody’s earrings. Because the internet needs a little more happiness. And I need to learn how to relax at a party.

Have a fabulous Tuesday!

p.s. If you’re on Twitter, and you want me to compliment your earrings, I totally will. Find me here. πŸ™‚

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Amy R says September 24, 2013

I totally know how you feel, Jamie! And someone who is only a reader and not an author, sometimes I feel even more like I can’t talk to other peeps on Twitter (most of the people on Twitter I am following or have as followers are authors – my personal friends and family are on Facebook). However, I do tend to tweet people above my social circles (i.e., authors) when I have nice things to stay about their books. If they don’t reply, yea, it stings a little but I know they aren’t doing it purpose (or I hope not anyway). I tell myself they are just busy and not on Twitter very much (makes me feel better anyway). I have Katy’s book to read and review, too, and I thought it was coming out October 1, so I have some reading I need to catch up on it seems. It is a good problem to have though – more books than I can read, right? Congrats to you and Katy on your debut books!

Jamie Farrell says September 24, 2013

Thanks, Amy! And please, tweet me anytime! It’s so funny – I feel awkward tweeting reviewers sometimes, because I’m so new at this, I’m afraid of making some faux pas and crossing a line I didn’t realize was there. I think social media should be a place where we can be just people, but so often I don’t feel like I’m “just people.” πŸ™‚

Thanks for stopping by! And I’m totally going to compliment your earrings the next time I see you on Twitter. πŸ™‚

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